Most of us are told we would know when we find "the one." Although Hargitay had been engaged before meeting Hermann, she never felt they were the right person.
It was a different story with Hermann because she fell in love with him at first sight. She even made a joke to break the ice during their first meeting, but he didn't laugh.
Months later, they discussed religion, and Hermann invited her to church. It was an unusual move for a first date, but it worked: Hargitay thought, "that's my husband" when she saw him in the church.
Still, they faced challenging times, and Meloni supported Hargitay after her first serious argument with Hermann. Meloni revealed Hargitay once came to the "SVU" set crying over her relationship.